How To Restore Broken Relationships
Relationships are at the core of what it means to be human. Nobody wants to live life alone, nobody wants to live life without warm, loving relationships. Where do we get this strong desire for relationships? We get it from God. We were created in God’s image and God Himself consists of a relationship between the three persons of the Trinity, Father, Son and Holy Spirit. So God created us to have a loving relationship with Himself and to have loving relationships with other people. Whether you’re a believer or not, every human being has the innate desire to have those two basic relationships with God and with people. Today I’m going to focus on our relationships with other people, but your relationship with God is actually the most important.
Last week we talked about Growing Together In A Life Group, building relationships with new people. Each of us needs to learn to build the relationships in our lives that God has blessed us with. NLT Philippians 2:1-2 Is there any encouragement from belonging to Christ? Any fellowship together in the Spirit? Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one heart and purpose. There you have God’s will for the family of God, we should agree wholeheartedly with each other, we should love one another and we should work together with one heart and purpose. Those three things are also God’s will for your family, agreeing with one another, loving one another and working together with one purpose.
Yet sometimes things go wrong and relationships that were once warm and close become cold and distant. Relationships that were once loving become broken. What should you do when a relationship becomes broken? Should you just give up on it? Look elsewhere for a new one? I believe that relationships are worth salvaging, so today I’m going to talk about How To Restore Broken Relationships. Those who restore broken relationships are peacemakers because broken relationships lead to conflict arguments and fights.
NLT Matthew 5:9 God blesses those who work for peace, for they will be called the children of God. The blessing of God is upon those who work for peace the blessing of God is on those who restore broken relationships. They will be called the children of God. Why? Because peacemakers are acting like their heavenly Father who made peace with us through the death of Jesus. So now lets see what God’s Word teaches about how to restore broken relationships in your life.
Think about the relationships in your life. Some may be going good, but there may be others that are strained or completely broken. Keep the one in mind that is the biggest problem in your life right now as we look at God’s Word.
To hear more about this topic, listen to my June 11, 2006 message entitled How To Restore Broken Relationships
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I am going through a broken relationship.I have studied the peacemaker series, sought counseling, prayed, and read a book by John Ortberg. Everyone tells me to let go and move on. I have a huge problem with just settling with no communication and no resolution. I am still hurt and reminded just how wrong I have handled the situation by placing alot of blame on him and trying to pressure him to go to counseling. I treasure him but more importantly I need to treasure God and start over with prayer. This has gone horrible for some time now. Your message has helped to remind me of the need to be faithful with seeking God, praying, and looking for the right time to approach him again. He doesn’t like conflict and he is just as miserable as I am.
I have tried everything. Even prayer. Nothing is working. I’ve done as the Bible said and tried to reconcile and make peace with the person whom I have hurt. She wouldn’t forgive me, or reconcile with me in any way. I am still hurt and depressed, and just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t know even know whether or not it is wrong to try to approach her again. Like the above poster says, everyone keeps telling me that too… to let it go to move on. But this just doesn’t feel right to me. NO RESOLUTION? Should I settle for that? To be miserable for the rest of my life without some sort of resolution? Again, like the poster above, I am still hurt… I don’t know how to handle my pain, or deal with this situation effectively. I tried to apologize, but it didn’t do any good. So now I am just miserable and depressed. I wasn’t slothful at first, I tried to talk to her. But she wouldn’t listen, so I just gave up. But even giving up doesn’t feel right. And even going back to apologize now that she doesn’t want me around doesn’t feel right, either. Moving on, also doesn’t feel right. I feel like I’m boxed in, with no escape.
Change what you expect from her. You have attempted to reconcile your wrongs and that’s all that God wants you to do. You can’t control what she does or how she feels, but you can control what you do and how you feel. Your peace of mind, joy, and life doesn’t depend on her response to you; it depended on your efforts to make things right, which you’ve tried doing. You tried! The devil is condemning you by holding the wrong you’ve committed to her over your head. He wants to keep you in the cycle of feeling depressed and miserable about life. Choose to end it now. The way you’re trying to make amends with her is the same way you have to make them with yourself.Forgive yourself. You’re healing and freedom doesn’t depend on the wrong you’ve done and especially not her response; it depends on the way you seek God. God’s love is freedom not condemning. Let his love for you wash away the guilt and condemnation the devil is using against you.
It takes two to reconcile. As a believer, your responsbility is to forgive and attempt to restore the relationship. This is not always possible.
NIV Romans 12:17 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. 18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19 Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.
Note that in this passage, we are instructed to live at peace, “as far as it depends on you.” If the reconciliation is not possible at this time, then leave room for God to act by placing the relationship in His hands and going on with life.
God has a plan for your life and no broken relationship or person who refuses to forgive can thwart that plan. When you have done what is right, move on in God’s plan for your life.
I have a situation where, I did not hurt someone, but I did approach them with what was on my mind. By voicing it to them, it helped free me, but it wounded the relationship and now we are walking on egg shells. It is slowly healing, but I can no longer speak freely to this person. And we used to sit for hours and talk. I enjoy being around this person. I wish now that I would of never said anything. The Lord is healing the relationship, but it not the same. I’m so confused, that I don’t know where to turn from here, except to GOD, to sit still and let him heal the relationship.
And I know not to be double minded…but at time…I am so confused. I want back the old relationship.
Needing help…
In a relationship you are suppossed to be free to voice your feelings. If the person is punishing you for this then that is a kind of manipulation and mind control. I dont mean to be over the top but it is a form of emotional abuse because you are not being allowed to express your own emotions and you are now suffering for being yourself. If i was you i would tell the person how you feel now i.e nervous to express yourself again and walking on egg shells. Tell the person that a relationship is two way thing and just as you expressed yourself, they should also be free to express themselves. You should not feel opressed for expressing your feelings, neither should you feel guilty. Do not allow the enemy to condemn you for nothing. Be strong and dont let pleasing the person be an idle in your life, when you put God first you will have a clear conscience regarldless of how others try to manipulate you. I dont worry about people anymore as long as i have not sinned and offended the person i chose to have peace and refuse to be depressed because of a human being who cannot accept the truth. Be free in Jesus Name. Remember the enemy comes to steal kill and destroy. Has he stolen your joy? liberty? God bless you.
I tried to restore my relationship with my husband on my own, unfortunately things got worse. I had an affair and this made things even worse. I came to the cross road in my life with a broken heart. It became so painful that I rededicated my life to the Lord. I realized that the only hope for me was to seek God.Jesus became my counselor and comforter. Music was therapy for me. I put my trust in God and believed the situation would become better.One day I presented my husband with a relationship analysis sheet. My relationship with my husband received the lowest score. At this point in our lives we were also going through a financial crisis and this made matters worst.Through it all I learned to depend on God’s Word. Every relationship is worth restoring. Lay your troubles at the foot of Jesus because he promised that he will never leave us or forsake us. God is real and very powerful. Always remember God is in Control. When you troubled communicate with the higher power. Prayer until something happens. I prayer and my husband also prayer. We waited and I am happy to say that we are together and continue to prayer daily. God Is Love.
Victorious in Jesus
Reading your posts have also brough tears to my eyes, as I have been there. God is all about restoration, that is why he sent his son, to restore the broken relationship between himself and us. Sometimes God needs to show us certain things in life, and may need to deal with us in certain areas. I encourage you to continue in prayer and be steadfast. Use this time to ask God to heal your wounds, and reach out to your support group of close friends, and famiy members that can provide you with the support that you need. I have been there, where you are, but through much prayer and trusting in God, my partner and i are in a better place. It was nobody but God, to do it! Also, remember that YOU alone can change a relationship, by changing yourself. Some great books that have helped me include writings by Henry Cloud and Towsend, there is a website where they have written on different relational issues. Also, find some relationship books-Gary Chapman is also very good.
Much Love and continue to Trust God, he will never give us more than we can handle.
Love You All!
Thank you for this segment. It is like eating a piece of bread or even like a sip of water. When our relationships are broken, so are we and really don’t have the strength we need to be able to eat properly, which is why for me, it is like a piece of bread or a sip of water; enough to give me some strength and spiritual nutrients that I can swallow at this time in my life concerning my relationships. I will continue to listen and purpose to apply what I have heard according to the Word of God.
Again,
Thank you.
I have been having a hard time with an ex, not married but it still hurts the same. I have tried so many things and i also pray about the situation but it seems things just get worse and worse. I just recently found out from him that he is seeing someone else. He didnt really want to tell me but he did and i have been hurt ever since. I do want him back because i saw a future with him, with God first. Thats what i have always wanted. But it seems things just get worse and worse by the day. I pray and try to have faith but it is sooooo hard to do when everyone around you tells you to just forget it and move on. I really need help with this situation……
The most important relationship in your life is your relationship with God. At a time like this, work on building that relationship first. I really don’t know enough details of the relationship to be sure about what advice to give you. I would say that you need to be open to the possibility that this relationship is not in God’s will for you. So many times these days, we see couples living together without being married. This is wrong, according to the Bible, whether the couple feels they are in love or not. The physical intimacy then creates a one flesh bond that creates great pain when it is broken. God designed the one flesh bond of physical intimacy to be only for marriage and to only be broken by death. If this was the situation with your relationship, repentance is in order and asking God to bring healing. If this was not the case, you really must seek for God’s plan for your life moving forward and leave this relationship in His hands. If it is of him, He will bring it back. If it is not of Him, He will lead you to new things.
I have recently been broken up from a relationship with the one whom i truely loved. and i still do till this very day. I worship the lord, pray to god everyday till one day we could be back together once again.
She left me dew to being impatient and not waiting long enough for us to be married. How i know she is the one, God himself introduce me to her back in high school. we had a 4 year relationship together even after high school graduation. we split up eight years later i’m back with her again for a about 2 months and than things whent wrong. I really blame myself for this relationship to be completely broken. God gave me a second chance and i messed this all up.
So i pray till one day she comes back into my life.
Please pray for me…Any advice is very much appreciated as well.
Father God,
I am asking and believing you to please restore my relationship with my fiance. We are to be married later this year. We had an argument and I may have said too much. I have apologized and will trust God with this issue in the future. Please remove any and all hindrances and obstacles that attempt to stand in the way of our reconciliation. I cancel every plan the enemy has laid for us, in the name of Jesus.
I need God to please give me another chance with this man whom I love. He has withdrawn from me. I pray God will open his heart to love me again and that we will be blessed to be together. God, you will always be my first love. I will be sure to keep you first so that no one can take your place. We both love you Lord and always will.
I believe that you brought this man into my life to love me and cover me. I pray that you will repair, restore and reunite us. Lord you can do anything. Please give me favor with my fiance and grant me another chance to get it right. Father, you know why I need you to do this for me this time. Please show me a token of your goodness/love for me. Turn it around God. Please turn the circumstances around. I will be a good wife and trust you to help me keep him covered and loved. In the name of Jesus…Amen.
Annette, if only you could come back and let us know how things are going ?
Dear Annette, What a beautiful prayer – I pray with all my heart for your restoration to come to pass, happier and more in love than ever! As I read it I said to God that is how I feel about my boyfriend and our broken relationship. I know exactly how you feel, the heartache, pain and regret you feel and all you want if for God to intercede (as we both know he can) and mend your relationship and give you that one more chance to make things right b/c know you see everything clearly and you love him so much. He is the one your meant to share your life with as I am with Tim. Things look hopeless in the natural and I have a lot of sad days but I focus on God, he can do the impossible! I don’t know about you but I’m not listening to these people who say forget about it, move on already, or maybe it’s not meant to be. God knows our hearts and he sees true love and devotion, no matter what don’t give up b/c God can and does perform miracles everyday and he can do that for us also. When I feel hopeless I tell myself don’t give up, focus on God and know that when you come out of this nightmare on the other side with the man you love, happy and in love, all this pain, heartache and effort will have been worth it all. Thank you for your heartfelt prayer, I hope to hear a really happy testimony from you someday as I share mine with you. I have strong Faith and belief in God, he has given me signs of hope when I asked him that is why I wait patiently for his set time, it will come – for you also! God Bless You. Joanne
Annette,
Such a wonderful prayer. Bring tears to my eyes. I really hope and pray that your all wishes comes true. I am going through similar kina pain. Wish me luck too.
God bless
what if you are the only one who wants the relationship to work? my boyfriend broke up with me and does not want to work with me towards fixing the situation
It takes two people working together to restore a relationship. The Bible tells us to be at peace with all men, as far as it depends on you. So, if the other person does not want to work on restoring the relationship, there are several things to consider. First of all, it could be that the restoration will take time and eventually your friend will change their mind. Secondly, it could be that the relationship is not God’s will and it will never be restored. Finally, it could be that the relationship is to be restored but at a lower level, for example, just friends, rather than a romantic relationship. Pray and seek God’s will on the matter, not just what you want, and He will make it clear to you what direction to go.
Thank you so much for your message and postings. They are helping me so much during this difficult period. I was in a relationship and the other person simply decided to walk away. No explanation or reason why was given. They have not communicated with me since. I was completely devastated. I have been hurt before but never has it felt so bad. I have asked God to heal my broken heart so that I can feel whole again. I am trying to be strong but it is so hard. I am surrounding myself in prayer. I also continue to pray for me ex. I have turned this over to God and I am asking that his will be done. Please say a special prayer for me. I am trying so hard to be strong but I feel so lost and all alone……
Please pray for me and for this miracle and blessing. It gets harder to keep my faith up in this situation, but I cannot let Satan bring down my faith!
I pray that me and my ex boyfriend will be back together. It’s been over 2 months since the breakup date (April 6th 2010) and my feelings for him still and will never go away. God put us together for a reason. And I pray and know that God can and will get back together. I had dreams that we got married and had a family together and stayed together forever more. Me and him (ex) even talked about marriage and our future while we were together. I want that future. Those dreams to become reality. I don’t want it any other way. I thank God for the blessings I already have. Just this one extra blessing I’m asking for, and Glory shall fill my life. For my relationship with my ex shall and will and already has happened in the Name of Jesus. Amen.
If we give up praying for the one we love,when things have gone wrong, then we may as well give up praying altogether. No! I beleive we must keep on praying. I too have lost my loved one. We were engaged and had our own home. I lost everything.I blame myself. We must keep on praying. Jesus tells us to keep on praying, to persevere, not to give up hope.We must ask God for the faith to get us through this.The evil one wants you to give up, he will plant doubt and despondency in your mind.Luke 18, the parable of the persistant widow.Ephesians 6,10-18.Ask God to help you through this difficult time in your life. My love in Jesus christ. Amen!!
One thing I have learned is that God will not restore every broken relationship you have no matter how hard you pray or have faith.
My ex and I were together for just a little over two years when she broke up with me. At that time I became a prayer warrior and trusted that He would restore us. It never hapened.
Today she is now married and has a child with another man.
I wish the best to all of you who are hoping that God will restore yours. And I will stand in faith with you.
Hi my name is shameka ive been going through soo much well not anything major me and my x boyfrined keep breaking up and i turn to voodoo which my family is real spritual and belive n god but i do as wellm. i ask giod to forgive me and im asking him to help me out w my decision n life and my relationships. i just dont want to talk to the wrong ppl. thank u may god bless
Thank You for this message fm God. I’ll do all my best to became a peacemaker. I’m restoring a relationship right now, I’ve already tried to live several days in faith and not in seeing and it really helps. I gave this relationship in Gods hands, because he’s the only help and answere to everything.
Hi All
Please pray for reconciliation between me and my ex-partner, so that not only can I see my daughter, but so that we can raise our daughter together. I don’t want things to go down the legal route, and I want things to be sorted amicably, but her family are pulling the strings here, and making things awkward. I pray that all this nastiness goes away, and that the families on both sides can forgive and forget, and not use our daughter as a pawn in some game. I pray that my ex’s pain and hurt are healed, and that I become more tolerant, but at the same time stronger about her family, but at the same time I pray that my ex wakes up to what her family is doing – I know I’m far from innocent here (as I ended the relationship) but they’re making the fuel for the fire! I need something short of a miracle, but I just want to be a daddy to my little girl, but at the same time, I want the woman I miss back in my life!
Mark let me ask you this, is there anyting to hard for God? How big are you on FAITH. Is God not a rewarder to them that diligently seek him. This situation is not fatal, it will be alright if you believe. I strongly sujust that you start speaking it into existance that God restore, renew, refresh, and rebuild your relationship with this indiviual as well as with your daughter if that is the will of God. NO, I don’t know who, what, when, where and why it happened but, I do know who can and that is God. Stop looking to the left (her family) nor to the right (your family) and just look to God who is the finisher of our FAITH. Know that everything will and shall be alright. You know Mark God sees the best in us when everyelse can only see the worst. Stay encourage and be of good cheer. God Bless, Sis Johnnie.
Well I have read just about all of the prayers and listen to the sermon by Pastor Dan and it’s all very encouraging. So here’s my story: My girlfriend broke up with me about 3 days ago and I know it’s my fault that she didn’t want to work on this anymore. Due to the fact that I lied to her several times. Now I’ve been praying for God to bring her back because I feel in my heart that God made her especially for me, but I have to be realistic and ask myself what if this is just my belief and not God’s will what do I do…Well that’s my situation now, trusting that God will work it out. I’m in such a rush to try and fix it myself but the truth is I can’t only He can so I ask that you guys pray that I have the faith I need to restore my relationship with God so he can restore my relationship with my girlfriend if it’s His will and if it’s not give me comfort and understanding of the situation.
Amen
I first to thank you for this website. I just got let go out of leadership at my chruch I was basicly my Pastor right hand man. Every since this young woman came into our church things have been the same I pray about numerous times but something was not right, it seem everything I did was put down by her thenout of suddenly I seen my pastor pulling away from me. I know that she did like me becasue try her best to get me to push the Pastor on certain issue and just refuse too.But as i reflect on the whole picture i should have handle the frustrated moments better. I take the blame for not turning out to God, i try to do own my own and angry set in. Meeting became a diaster after diaster feeling were hurt including my Pastor. So I wanted to know stay their to show Gods grace and mercy or to leave to what maybe God want me to do.
Larry Biue, I beleive that there is not a problem or sny situation to hard for God to solve. Sometimes we as humans can sometimes make a move before God tells us to move. I will say wait on God to lead you in this matter. While waiting pray even the more so. Not just for yourself but, for your Pastor and the woman involved that God will move on them as well. Don’t give satin any room to come in and destroy. Stay encourage and be of good cheer for your redeemer draws near. I say wait on the Lord. God Bless. Sis Johnnie.
Dan thank you for your sermons on relationships and your blog. i know your sermons and blogs have helped me and alot of people. Your sermons are very good. I’m going through the same as everyone here. I lost my faith and lost the love of my life. She will not talk to me. I pray and seek counsel….to this point nothing…..Thank you and God Bless you Dan
well i recently got divorced i was married for 10 years threw the years my ex cheated on me i finally made the decision to live him after i had an affair that lasted about 3 months i new it was wrong cause i was in christ i confessed it to one of my friends from church because i had to let it out. I had the affair because i hadnt heard nice words in so long from a person and i allowed satan to fool me because of how unhappy i was with my husband and all i lived threw. Soon after i left my husband and decided to get a divorce i had gone shopping for some things i needed and i met some one not even looking that was the last thing i wanted we talked about so many things i had never talked to someone about everything possible u could think of he seemed so into me it was like if i was giving him hope to the life he wished to have after having so many faults and admitting to them just recently some thing happened i really dont know he started with his old habits maybe he always had them i was just foolish he made me feel good about my self and encouraged all the time never pressured but he wasnt ready to fully commit we have completely stopped talking i knew he had met somebody he would party with but yet he was still calling me and being bothered by me not paying the same attention as before but i couldnt because i wasnt that girl who believed i had to prove that i had better qualities or i was better for him than any body else he should have known that if he trully cared and meant everything he said. I have had a hard time dealing with it but i think god wanted to bond with me more and not be so worried about what that other person was doing or thinking. I ve had to learn to trust god more and put everything in his hands and every minute of the day tell my self that god gave everything for me and not to feel like i wasnt worth it that i was trated for some one that was cooler than me . I havent tried to make contact with him at all and neither has he i sometimes wonder was i that easy to forget but i try to feel my self with his love and just glorify him. Its really been hard and ive cried so much but ive also opened my eyes to see that right now god and my 2 children need me and that i have another angel i lost 9 years ago that loves me too. Lets all encourage and pray for god not to soully restore those relationships but restore our hearts and heal and that he restores or open new doors for us accourding to his wil
like jeremiah 29:11 says for i know that plans i have for declares the lord not to harm you but to give you a better future.
I pray for my happiness and also that of my former partner. At times our hearts seem to come back, especially in time of crisis. He shares with me his fears and his plans. At times his heart is closed and bound off to me. Through prayer I had recognized my hand in damaging the sanctity of our relationship through anger, jealousy, insecurity and abuse. I pray that he could forgive me instead of just forgetting my past wrong.
I thank him for the fortitude to decide to go, for without which I would not have seem how hollow a person I’ve been and how I have allowed fear of myself cripple us.
I had not tried when I could to restore this trust but instead moved further from truth by succumbing to others. It is only when i have time alone that i started to see within. I had not trusted and grateful for this gift of his love and care. Seeing that he is much more fulfilled away from me, I could not pray for reconciliation although this is what I want.
My fiance left me…I was really good to him, I love the Lord and I faithful. Actually my fiance was a troubled man. Although he cheated and left me I wanted peace and to just start over. I thought we were in love but noticed he just seemed to hate me. He had the other woman contacting and all I did continually was be the peace maker. I love him. He was in foster care and abused. He just doesnt love me. So logically I let him be free and stopped reaching out. I let him be, after trying for about 5monhts….I want us restored but Im the only one.
Hi I am asking that everyone pray with me for the restoration of my relationship of almost 2 years with the girl that I am in love with. We both have done some hurtful things to each other in the past. When we had started to go to church everything was fine but as soon as we stopped that’s when the devil came in and everything started to go down hill. Now the devil has confused her into believing that she might like a girl just on valentines day she brushed me off to be with another girl. I have been praying that God restore us back to when we were going to church let us grow in the lord together. to remove this homosexual spirit that has come upon her, to remove the obstacles keeping us from being together, to change her heart and mind to come back to God. I pray that God brings her to her knees and open her eyes to the love she has for me. I pray that God heals our hearts from the pain caused and that we change to be the perfect spouses for each other. I use to pray for God to send me someone before i met her I prayed for almost a year and she came along. Lord restore my blessing the devil tried to steal from me. Amen
Please I need prayer for academic success.tankez for ur good work My advice to those that are heart broken is to continue trying and ask for forgiveness,cause forgiveness does not change the past but enlarges the future
God bless you, Corey….Stand for your relationship. god will heal your relationship. Glory to God…Greg
please pray for me and my boyfriend. I waited so long for someone like him but I can do better in the way i treat him sometimes. please pray that i change how i relate to him so that the Lord can sustain us.
As I read over these comments, I’m hearing in my spirit a weeping. Rejection is a terrible thing. It will bring a boiling up inside that leads to a rage that only God can subside. You can’t eat, can’t think,can’t sleep, don’t want to do anything, except talk about what happened. Been there before and I survived. You will make it through. A journal helps if you write down every word and feeling you have. Promise yourself that you will not discuss this with anyone but God and your journal. One day you won’t need it anymore. God will take the pain away and you will see that they are forgiven. I even made a list of everything that “they” did wrong and I began to repent. If they lied I said Lord forgive me for every lie I’ve ever told to anyone. It’s amazing how upset we get with each other and when you stop to think about how upset God gets with us, how sad He must be with our behavior…especially when we never say we are sorry. I hope this helps.
I found this site through a google search and am listening to the sermon. Wish I were in Missouri – great pastor, thank you, you are blessed! I was in a relationship with someone for two years, we did not marry, and we had/have a child together, a beautiful daughter. when I told him i was pregnant, he said he would be there for the baby but he did not want anything to do with me. that crushed me and three years later, it still crushes me. a friend once said (recently) that she thinks he still has feelings for me. its hard to discern. he’s been dating and is involved (i think) in a serious relationship. I don’t have enough space to go into all detail. I am a rollercoaster of prayers. First to work on me – we sinned, I know that and having a baby out of wedlock felt like a scarlet letter, especially when the father of the child wanted nothing to do with me. Is he taking care of the baby? He is doing the best he can; however, I am shouldering most of the responsibility. I thought the feelings would leave after three years. But I still have emotions for him (go figure, right?). This site encourages me to pray and to wait on the Lord for His guidance and direction. for those who have listened and heard God’s voice, how did you know it was God and not you acting on your own behalf?
i am a young lady of 23. i was recently in a relatioship and it ended because o could not take his lies anymore. problem is i still love him to bits but he wont take me back. i have a history of attack from evil spirits such as rejection ans spiritual husband. could these spirits be responsible because non of my relationships ever prosper. please help me
the father of my son left us and its been a year and 6 month, i have had 3 dreams that he has a daughter, is that a sign that i should move on or should i continue praying for the relationship to be restored. I just found out few days ago that he is dating a young gal 9 years his junior, it hurt me so much that i asked him to leave since he came around to see his son for the 1st time since he left us a year and 6 mnths ago, i am a praying women and one pator said to me i should continue praying and wait unto the Lord for answear, i feel like my life is passing me by while i am waiting and he is moving on, he loves he son deeply. I am not getting any youngre and all my friends are getting marries, and it doesnt look like there is any man out there wh is interested to date since i havent had any proposal from a man for the last year and 6 months, i am loney and deeply saddens and scared that i might end up alone, please advice
Hello everyone, I am happy that I found this site. It makes me feel like I am not alone. I was with my ex-boyfriend for 3 yrs, but we’ve known each other for 3 1/2 yrs. We had a very very close relationship, but somewhere down the line it started to become unhealthy. Long story short, I ended up breaking up with him but I always loved him with all of my heart and I never stopped loving him. I became abstinent and repented and just started seeking God for His will for us. I really wanted God to bring us back together. We were actually going to get married before all of this happened, but I just felt like it wasn’t God’s timing at that time. Well, we became friends again and started becoming close with each other again, but I had a feeling that he was talking to someone else so I asked him and he told me that he has a girlfriend and has been with her for the past 5-6 months and they are intimate with one another. Talk about a broken-heart and not being able to breath! He didn’t cheat on me at all and he never tried to be fresh with me, but when I found out about the other girl I told him that I still really loved him and that I wanted us to work it out, he told me that he still loves me too, but that he doesn’t know what he wants to do…he started talking to her as soon as we broke up, she is 20-21 and he’s 31 and I’m 30. I have been trying to pray, I’ve been talking to family and friends. I’ve lost 11 pounds in one week (that’s how long it’s been since I found out) and I have been crying my eyes out. This has been super hard for me because I always know what God wants me to do about a situation and this is the first time that I don’t feel him speaking to me. He is not telling me to leave him or to try and work it out. So what I have decided to do is just move on and wish him the best with his new girlfriend. I have a feeling that he doesn’t want to let go of me though. He won’t even take his stuff out of my car…that’s the only tie that we have to each other right now. I feel a little better today though after finally letting it go.
No matter what, just believe that God’s will will be done no matter what the situation. It is always best to pray for His will and whatever is meant to be will definitely happen, but in His timing! God is Amazing and He will see all of us through. I know of 2 relationships personally that have been restored through God…way better and stronger than they were before, and I also know of some people who were blessed with people who were way better than the person who they lost. Just give it to God, He is the one who knows what is best for all involved. We will all get through this. God bless you all
That was an incrediable story thank you so much for sharing. I have had a similiar thing happen to me. I will pray god’s will for both of us.
please pray for me that me and my partner will back together he promise us we will back again i hope that this promise will not be broken so we can raised our 3 son together.i love him with the love of the Lord.
My Ex-partner and I had a lot of problems during our 9 month relationship. I had been waiting for the results of a cervical biopsy. My dad is dying and I started a high pressured corporate job. My partner was on drugs and i was on anti depressants. I was always emotional and clingy. I stopped going to church and praying. God told me to pray for my realtionship but i did not listen. My partner would get abusive after drugs and hit me and taunt me. In the end i snapped and threw a kettle at him because he was throwing water at me. I did not realise that he had just boiled the kettle. He ended up with 2nd degree burns. i was arrested and I am on bail. I cannot contact my ex partner. I have been charged with gbh. my ex has 2nd degree burns. Since then i have come off anti depressants and i am thinking clearly. I decided to move on in my life and forgave my ex even though in the autum i will go to court to be sentenced. Though i have tried to move on God has put in my path many teachings and articles about mending a broken realtionship. So I have now started praying for things to be reconciled. My ex- called to say he forgives me. I am in counselling and prayig God is dealing with me.
I now am praying for God to restore us under him as a loving couple. I dont want another man. I want to put right all the wrongs and now the problems in my life are working out one by one i feel i am on the path to becoming a whole person. Paul is saying we will always be friends. But I want us to be a loving couple.
Hello i really need your prayers for this i have never wanted anything more than to be with this guy, my story is: I been praying and talking alot to God for the past 4 years now to bring me someone who will love me and that we could end up being married well i dated a few guys but nothing really happened they came and went so i did the long distance relationship i met a guy from Texas he flew in every so offten to PA we ended up dating for 8months and when he was here we decided to go out with one of my friends and her boyfriend and thats when i met this special person (jimmy)we just clicked and had soo much fun hanging out, well the texas guy went back i never heard a thing from him i tryed to contact him but got nothing, so jimmy and i started talking we talked for 2 months before he asked me to be his girlfriend everything was going great with us he asked me twice to marry him so i told him when we hit a year then we can talk about that, he took me to meet his parents everything was great then one day i get this call he dont want to date anymore that he just wants friends for now so we started going back out again then i would go for a week without hearing from him so i ended up breaking it off with him cause i have had two breakdowns over this so i sacrificed to the LORD that he needs to step in and take over i have this inner peace about us getting back together but i need GOD to strenthen me and jimmy to make our hearts right in GODS eyes i want GODS mercy and grace in this relationship, so please keep me in prayer and rebuke the devil out of this relationship. thank you and god bless
I have been a Christian for many years and my hearts desire has always been to love and serve the Lord. I have been through Bible College and also assisted in many ways in local churches. Several years ago I was suffering extreme bad health combined with severe depression. Life was like a dark tunnel with no light. Although I still loved the Lord I let my daily walk slip and even though I am married I ended up in a relationship with a married woman and had an affair. After a while I stopped the relationship and ceased to see the lady. I was so disappointed in myself and felt worthless and wretched I almost took my life on several occasions, I just felt that would be the best thing for me to do and that everybody, including God, would be better off with me out of the picture such was my terrible sin I had committed. I eventually got past feeling it was better to end my life and I recently told my wife about the affair. Things are very difficult at the moment and I am not sure what she will decide to do. I believe that God had a purpose for my life and that I have disqualified myself from that and I don’t know what the future holds now. I still want to serve the Lord and His Kingdom but feel like I have blown any chance I have of doing anything of value for Him. Thanks for letting me share these things. David.
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i am Mila , foreign student studing in china, i have read many post but yours touched me. i am walking with God and i want to become his faithful servant for the rest of my life. concerning you, i can immagine u might be very confused, feeling guilty, fear and worthlessness. i also can immagine the feelings of your wife, as i am a young women of 24 i always hope my husband never cheat on me if one day by the grace of God i get married. i think everybody makes mistakes, and you made one but God doesnt reject you for that, remember the appostle Paul, after fighting against Jesus became God servant. you are weak now, and more than ever God calls you to trust on him, on his unconditional love and acceptance. you cannot really fix anything yourself now, even the relationship with your wife is out of your control now. forget about trying abd wanting to serve the Lord, right now he wants your heart not really your service. the best thing to do is to askk for forgiveness anddiligently seek God, put your marriage and everything else in his hands and let Him do what pleases him. believe me God is able to create a river in the desert he can certainly restore you and your life as you never had it before. but u need to give up judjing urself, give up fear , anger and any negative feelings. put yourself with a sincere heart in seeking God. you will hear him in the mist of your storm if you dont give up or try to fix things on your own.
I pray that God helps you, and confort your wife, i dont know where you guys stand by this day but whatever is happening i know its never too late for God.
take care of yourself, forgive yourself , ask forgiveness to your wife , tell her your real feelings for her and give up trying. if you still have a bit of strenght put in on seeking God, I CAN ASSURE YOU THAT YOU WONT BE DESAPPOINTED FOR GOD IS LOVING, CARING AND FAITHFUL SO CAST ALL YOUR CARES ON HIM FOR HE CARES FOR YOU.
God bless you
Please pray for my realtionship and kids..
I’ve been iin a realtionship 6yrs n have2 kids 2gther were not marry..
We’ve done hurtful thiings 2 each other we both know about god…
We sperated 3 months ago n ii moved out of state with my kiids n iis soo hard …i c myself with n ii wnt 2 get marry wiith hiim..ii love hiim a lot. N da kids miss him a lot ..I’m just prayin n haviin faith iin god .. 2 make us a family agaiin… pls pray 4us ii just soooo lonley n my only hope iis God!
All of your posts are very interesting. I can relate and have great emapthy for you all. I too have been suffering from a broken relationship and a broken heart. Even though he and I haven’t had much communication at all and I haven’t seen him in nearly a month I am believing and standing in faith that God is going to restore, refresh, renew and rebulif our relationship. I believe our relationship will be stronger and deeper than ever before. My heart is broken. I miss him so much. I long to be with him. I have tried being the peacemaker but to no avail. We both love one another deeply but he is in financial crisis and it’s as though all of his problems have combined and mounted up now and he can’t handle dealing with it all. I have been praying diligently but haven’t seen anything much change at this point. I am believing through faith though that we will be reconciled back to one another by Christmas this year. Please pray for me! Thank you so much and God bless…
Please pray for my boyfriend. He is going through a difficult and confusing time that is related to latent grief for his late wife. She died last year and then about a month later we met and moved into together after making a commitment to each other as life partners. We haven’t broken up, but he has asked me to move out of our home… and until I can do so he is staying with a friend/at a hotel. We are going to counseling on Monday… We are going together to a relationship specialist as well as going to counseling separately afterwards. We plan on doing this as long as it takes, but I am so scared that moving out really means the beginning of the end. I love him so much and he loves me too and we want to be together and grow old together, but he is feeling so much hurt right now that my heart is breaking more for him than for myself. I don’t know what else to do but to have faith and stay positive and pray pray pray that God will give him clarity and strength to return to me and embrace our love and our relationship sooner rather than later. I am in so much pain and he is just sick with postponed grief over his late wife and over the hurt he has caused me. He keeps asking me how I can forgive him and how I can possibly let him continue to hurt me – my only answer is ‘because I love you and I made a commitment to you’… He doesnt understand such love… For some reason he doesn’t think he deserves love and forgiveness. God, please help him forgive himself so that he can accept my forgiveness and my love with a peaceful heart. After all I have been through in my life (abuse, abandonment, rape, bankruptcy) I have faith that you sent this wonderful man to love and keep me. I am sorry that I did anything to push him away or make him feel unloved. Forgive me Father, please help us to restore our relationship. He and I wish only to make things right so we can continue a healthy and loving relationship. Please help us, God our Father. Please pray for us.
Hello everyone,
I too am in a similar situation where there seems to be no resolution. We have been married for two years and it’s been a nightmare. I’ve been cheated on and emotionally abused and recently the relationship has broken down to the point where I might have to leave my home and my marriage. I care for this man very much, he has been good to me in many other ways but he is afflicted by demons (lying, infidelity) and I do not have the cure for what he ails from. In the past I have tried to control people and relationships which has left me frustrated, angry and depleted, now I’m trying to give it to God, in the hope that he will deliver the best possible outcome for both of us. In reading your posts I wonder how many of us stay, or long for relationships that are truly wrong for us, because we want to be loved and cherished so badly. I have struggled with toxic relationships and codependency all of my life and I’m now recognizing that I need God’s help and self-awareness to move from these dangerous patterns. I like many of you are struggling to let go of someone who has meant so much to me, but I think any relationship of God’s design should be harmonious, nurturing, supportive and the parties should bring out the best in one another. I am praying everyday for peace to deal with whatever unfolds. God Bless all of you…
I thought for months now, that I’m the only one going through so much pain… but realized I’m just one of many. I pray for all of you to find what it is you’re looking for, as I know how painful life is without the one you love more than anything else in this world.
My fiance of 4 years walked out on me 8months ago, after having had the most amazing relationship of 8years – and were so close to confirming our wedding date. She is the girl I had waited for my entire life, and when she entered it – I didnt thank God enough for allowing me the oppurtunity to share MAGICAL years with her.
As hard as I’ve been trying, STILL today I cry almost everyday & every night when I wake up… and she’s just nowhere to be found. Love her with all my heart, and the more i try and let her go, the more the wonderful memories just keep flooding my heart with love for her.
I miss Andrea so much, and relasized although I never did anything wrong … I could have done so many things a whole lot better.
Wish with all I had, I could turn back time and bring her back close to me where she once on-top of the world… but I’d been trying so very hard before she left, and imagined God would look out for her and bring her back oneday. I’ve prayed and prayed, and then gave that up based on the undesrtanding that once cannot pray fro someone to love me. But I’m so confused because she loved me with all she had for so long, until I suspect someone else popped their head in and contributed a different kind of attention. I sense she is now with someone, the same person that drew her away – & I feel so hurt how someone else can hurt such an amazing relationship for their own benefit. I believe one-day, she will want to return, but it will be too late… after our oppurtunity of amazing life and dreams are no longer possible due to new circumstances at that point in our lives.
I ask that anyone who reads this message, please believe me in my calls of desperation, that you take a moment to help me out by having a word of God. She knows I’d give the world to her, and I live with hope in my heart that she’ll return before her dreams buried blind and my washed away – will survive by an unexpected re-union. PLEASE I ASK.
In return, I will pray for you all – like I mean it, coz thats the only time God ever listens. I live with hope, and understanding that we can do only so much – but also know whats best for her… so I reach out to whoever may take the time to give something back.
Thank you with all my heart, I will keep returning the love of God to all.
My partner and I were living together for 4.5 years and this year was the year that we were going to plan our wedding/children. We had alot of ups and downs in our relationship, as I suffer from depression and also had an alcohol problem, where I would binge drink and not remember anything I said/did, often abusing my partner. He set boundaries and time and time again, I broke them. Finally, one year ago, he said he had enough and moved out. He said he needed time apart for us to try to rebuild things. I couldn’t give him any space that he needed and called him everyday crying and trying to work things out.
Well, now he has moved overseas for 1 to 2 years and doesn’t want anything to do with me, as he feels I don’t respect him. I do respect him and love him more than I love anybody. He is such a good, caring man, but has become so angry towards me.
I haven’t drank in a year and have recommitted my lift to God. I feel that God has given me several scriptures to say that he will send him overseas, but will bring him back and restore our relationship. However, in the natural, it seems so impossible. I don’t know what to do anymore. I am a mess and have been suicidal. I keep saying to God, if he is the one, then show me and bring him back. Otherwise, if he isn’t the one, then change me heart, so I don’t want or love him anymore. But God isn’t doing either and I can’t move forward. I am trying, but it’s so hard. Why won’t God do one of those things?