Comments on: How To Restore Broken Relationships http://www.pastordanwalker.org/2006/06/how-to-restore-broken-relationships.htm Truth from Life Church St Louis Tue, 20 Dec 2011 02:03:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Joanne Kamal http://www.pastordanwalker.org/2006/06/how-to-restore-broken-relationships.htm/comment-page-1#comment-1965 Joanne Kamal Tue, 20 Dec 2011 02:03:05 +0000 http://192.168.1.105/wordpress/?p=98#comment-1965 Dear Annette, What a beautiful prayer - I pray with all my heart for your restoration to come to pass, happier and more in love than ever! As I read it I said to God that is how I feel about my boyfriend and our broken relationship. I know exactly how you feel, the heartache, pain and regret you feel and all you want if for God to intercede (as we both know he can) and mend your relationship and give you that one more chance to make things right b/c know you see everything clearly and you love him so much. He is the one your meant to share your life with as I am with Tim. Things look hopeless in the natural and I have a lot of sad days but I focus on God, he can do the impossible! I don't know about you but I'm not listening to these people who say forget about it, move on already, or maybe it's not meant to be. God knows our hearts and he sees true love and devotion, no matter what don't give up b/c God can and does perform miracles everyday and he can do that for us also. When I feel hopeless I tell myself don't give up, focus on God and know that when you come out of this nightmare on the other side with the man you love, happy and in love, all this pain, heartache and effort will have been worth it all. Thank you for your heartfelt prayer, I hope to hear a really happy testimony from you someday as I share mine with you. I have strong Faith and belief in God, he has given me signs of hope when I asked him that is why I wait patiently for his set time, it will come - for you also! God Bless You. Joanne Dear Annette, What a beautiful prayer – I pray with all my heart for your restoration to come to pass, happier and more in love than ever! As I read it I said to God that is how I feel about my boyfriend and our broken relationship. I know exactly how you feel, the heartache, pain and regret you feel and all you want if for God to intercede (as we both know he can) and mend your relationship and give you that one more chance to make things right b/c know you see everything clearly and you love him so much. He is the one your meant to share your life with as I am with Tim. Things look hopeless in the natural and I have a lot of sad days but I focus on God, he can do the impossible! I don’t know about you but I’m not listening to these people who say forget about it, move on already, or maybe it’s not meant to be. God knows our hearts and he sees true love and devotion, no matter what don’t give up b/c God can and does perform miracles everyday and he can do that for us also. When I feel hopeless I tell myself don’t give up, focus on God and know that when you come out of this nightmare on the other side with the man you love, happy and in love, all this pain, heartache and effort will have been worth it all. Thank you for your heartfelt prayer, I hope to hear a really happy testimony from you someday as I share mine with you. I have strong Faith and belief in God, he has given me signs of hope when I asked him that is why I wait patiently for his set time, it will come – for you also! God Bless You. Joanne

]]> By: Ang http://www.pastordanwalker.org/2006/06/how-to-restore-broken-relationships.htm/comment-page-1#comment-1961 Ang Thu, 15 Dec 2011 13:47:55 +0000 http://192.168.1.105/wordpress/?p=98#comment-1961 My partner and I were living together for 4.5 years and this year was the year that we were going to plan our wedding/children. We had alot of ups and downs in our relationship, as I suffer from depression and also had an alcohol problem, where I would binge drink and not remember anything I said/did, often abusing my partner. He set boundaries and time and time again, I broke them. Finally, one year ago, he said he had enough and moved out. He said he needed time apart for us to try to rebuild things. I couldn't give him any space that he needed and called him everyday crying and trying to work things out. Well, now he has moved overseas for 1 to 2 years and doesn't want anything to do with me, as he feels I don't respect him. I do respect him and love him more than I love anybody. He is such a good, caring man, but has become so angry towards me. I haven't drank in a year and have recommitted my lift to God. I feel that God has given me several scriptures to say that he will send him overseas, but will bring him back and restore our relationship. However, in the natural, it seems so impossible. I don't know what to do anymore. I am a mess and have been suicidal. I keep saying to God, if he is the one, then show me and bring him back. Otherwise, if he isn't the one, then change me heart, so I don't want or love him anymore. But God isn't doing either and I can't move forward. I am trying, but it's so hard. Why won't God do one of those things? My partner and I were living together for 4.5 years and this year was the year that we were going to plan our wedding/children. We had alot of ups and downs in our relationship, as I suffer from depression and also had an alcohol problem, where I would binge drink and not remember anything I said/did, often abusing my partner. He set boundaries and time and time again, I broke them. Finally, one year ago, he said he had enough and moved out. He said he needed time apart for us to try to rebuild things. I couldn’t give him any space that he needed and called him everyday crying and trying to work things out.

Well, now he has moved overseas for 1 to 2 years and doesn’t want anything to do with me, as he feels I don’t respect him. I do respect him and love him more than I love anybody. He is such a good, caring man, but has become so angry towards me.

I haven’t drank in a year and have recommitted my lift to God. I feel that God has given me several scriptures to say that he will send him overseas, but will bring him back and restore our relationship. However, in the natural, it seems so impossible. I don’t know what to do anymore. I am a mess and have been suicidal. I keep saying to God, if he is the one, then show me and bring him back. Otherwise, if he isn’t the one, then change me heart, so I don’t want or love him anymore. But God isn’t doing either and I can’t move forward. I am trying, but it’s so hard. Why won’t God do one of those things?

]]> By: mila http://www.pastordanwalker.org/2006/06/how-to-restore-broken-relationships.htm/comment-page-1#comment-1957 mila Mon, 12 Dec 2011 20:42:03 +0000 http://192.168.1.105/wordpress/?p=98#comment-1957 Hi i am Mila , foreign student studing in china, i have read many post but yours touched me. i am walking with God and i want to become his faithful servant for the rest of my life. concerning you, i can immagine u might be very confused, feeling guilty, fear and worthlessness. i also can immagine the feelings of your wife, as i am a young women of 24 i always hope my husband never cheat on me if one day by the grace of God i get married. i think everybody makes mistakes, and you made one but God doesnt reject you for that, remember the appostle Paul, after fighting against Jesus became God servant. you are weak now, and more than ever God calls you to trust on him, on his unconditional love and acceptance. you cannot really fix anything yourself now, even the relationship with your wife is out of your control now. forget about trying abd wanting to serve the Lord, right now he wants your heart not really your service. the best thing to do is to askk for forgiveness anddiligently seek God, put your marriage and everything else in his hands and let Him do what pleases him. believe me God is able to create a river in the desert he can certainly restore you and your life as you never had it before. but u need to give up judjing urself, give up fear , anger and any negative feelings. put yourself with a sincere heart in seeking God. you will hear him in the mist of your storm if you dont give up or try to fix things on your own. I pray that God helps you, and confort your wife, i dont know where you guys stand by this day but whatever is happening i know its never too late for God. take care of yourself, forgive yourself , ask forgiveness to your wife , tell her your real feelings for her and give up trying. if you still have a bit of strenght put in on seeking God, I CAN ASSURE YOU THAT YOU WONT BE DESAPPOINTED FOR GOD IS LOVING, CARING AND FAITHFUL SO CAST ALL YOUR CARES ON HIM FOR HE CARES FOR YOU. God bless you Hi
i am Mila , foreign student studing in china, i have read many post but yours touched me. i am walking with God and i want to become his faithful servant for the rest of my life. concerning you, i can immagine u might be very confused, feeling guilty, fear and worthlessness. i also can immagine the feelings of your wife, as i am a young women of 24 i always hope my husband never cheat on me if one day by the grace of God i get married. i think everybody makes mistakes, and you made one but God doesnt reject you for that, remember the appostle Paul, after fighting against Jesus became God servant. you are weak now, and more than ever God calls you to trust on him, on his unconditional love and acceptance. you cannot really fix anything yourself now, even the relationship with your wife is out of your control now. forget about trying abd wanting to serve the Lord, right now he wants your heart not really your service. the best thing to do is to askk for forgiveness anddiligently seek God, put your marriage and everything else in his hands and let Him do what pleases him. believe me God is able to create a river in the desert he can certainly restore you and your life as you never had it before. but u need to give up judjing urself, give up fear , anger and any negative feelings. put yourself with a sincere heart in seeking God. you will hear him in the mist of your storm if you dont give up or try to fix things on your own.
I pray that God helps you, and confort your wife, i dont know where you guys stand by this day but whatever is happening i know its never too late for God.
take care of yourself, forgive yourself , ask forgiveness to your wife , tell her your real feelings for her and give up trying. if you still have a bit of strenght put in on seeking God, I CAN ASSURE YOU THAT YOU WONT BE DESAPPOINTED FOR GOD IS LOVING, CARING AND FAITHFUL SO CAST ALL YOUR CARES ON HIM FOR HE CARES FOR YOU.
God bless you

]]> By: San Jones http://www.pastordanwalker.org/2006/06/how-to-restore-broken-relationships.htm/comment-page-1#comment-1945 San Jones Sun, 04 Dec 2011 11:21:05 +0000 http://192.168.1.105/wordpress/?p=98#comment-1945 Change what you expect from her. You have attempted to reconcile your wrongs and that's all that God wants you to do. You can't control what she does or how she feels, but you can control what you do and how you feel. Your peace of mind, joy, and life doesn't depend on her response to you; it depended on your efforts to make things right, which you've tried doing. You tried! The devil is condemning you by holding the wrong you've committed to her over your head. He wants to keep you in the cycle of feeling depressed and miserable about life. Choose to end it now. The way you're trying to make amends with her is the same way you have to make them with yourself.Forgive yourself. You're healing and freedom doesn't depend on the wrong you've done and especially not her response; it depends on the way you seek God. God's love is freedom not condemning. Let his love for you wash away the guilt and condemnation the devil is using against you. Change what you expect from her. You have attempted to reconcile your wrongs and that’s all that God wants you to do. You can’t control what she does or how she feels, but you can control what you do and how you feel. Your peace of mind, joy, and life doesn’t depend on her response to you; it depended on your efforts to make things right, which you’ve tried doing. You tried! The devil is condemning you by holding the wrong you’ve committed to her over your head. He wants to keep you in the cycle of feeling depressed and miserable about life. Choose to end it now. The way you’re trying to make amends with her is the same way you have to make them with yourself.Forgive yourself. You’re healing and freedom doesn’t depend on the wrong you’ve done and especially not her response; it depends on the way you seek God. God’s love is freedom not condemning. Let his love for you wash away the guilt and condemnation the devil is using against you.

]]> By: Paulo http://www.pastordanwalker.org/2006/06/how-to-restore-broken-relationships.htm/comment-page-1#comment-1936 Paulo Fri, 02 Dec 2011 19:16:25 +0000 http://192.168.1.105/wordpress/?p=98#comment-1936 I thought for months now, that I'm the only one going through so much pain... but realized I'm just one of many. I pray for all of you to find what it is you're looking for, as I know how painful life is without the one you love more than anything else in this world. My fiance of 4 years walked out on me 8months ago, after having had the most amazing relationship of 8years - and were so close to confirming our wedding date. She is the girl I had waited for my entire life, and when she entered it - I didnt thank God enough for allowing me the oppurtunity to share MAGICAL years with her. As hard as I've been trying, STILL today I cry almost everyday & every night when I wake up... and she's just nowhere to be found. Love her with all my heart, and the more i try and let her go, the more the wonderful memories just keep flooding my heart with love for her. I miss Andrea so much, and relasized although I never did anything wrong ... I could have done so many things a whole lot better. Wish with all I had, I could turn back time and bring her back close to me where she once on-top of the world... but I'd been trying so very hard before she left, and imagined God would look out for her and bring her back oneday. I've prayed and prayed, and then gave that up based on the undesrtanding that once cannot pray fro someone to love me. But I'm so confused because she loved me with all she had for so long, until I suspect someone else popped their head in and contributed a different kind of attention. I sense she is now with someone, the same person that drew her away - & I feel so hurt how someone else can hurt such an amazing relationship for their own benefit. I believe one-day, she will want to return, but it will be too late... after our oppurtunity of amazing life and dreams are no longer possible due to new circumstances at that point in our lives. I ask that anyone who reads this message, please believe me in my calls of desperation, that you take a moment to help me out by having a word of God. She knows I'd give the world to her, and I live with hope in my heart that she'll return before her dreams buried blind and my washed away - will survive by an unexpected re-union. PLEASE I ASK. In return, I will pray for you all - like I mean it, coz thats the only time God ever listens. I live with hope, and understanding that we can do only so much - but also know whats best for her... so I reach out to whoever may take the time to give something back. Thank you with all my heart, I will keep returning the love of God to all. I thought for months now, that I’m the only one going through so much pain… but realized I’m just one of many. I pray for all of you to find what it is you’re looking for, as I know how painful life is without the one you love more than anything else in this world.

My fiance of 4 years walked out on me 8months ago, after having had the most amazing relationship of 8years – and were so close to confirming our wedding date. She is the girl I had waited for my entire life, and when she entered it – I didnt thank God enough for allowing me the oppurtunity to share MAGICAL years with her.
As hard as I’ve been trying, STILL today I cry almost everyday & every night when I wake up… and she’s just nowhere to be found. Love her with all my heart, and the more i try and let her go, the more the wonderful memories just keep flooding my heart with love for her.
I miss Andrea so much, and relasized although I never did anything wrong … I could have done so many things a whole lot better.
Wish with all I had, I could turn back time and bring her back close to me where she once on-top of the world… but I’d been trying so very hard before she left, and imagined God would look out for her and bring her back oneday. I’ve prayed and prayed, and then gave that up based on the undesrtanding that once cannot pray fro someone to love me. But I’m so confused because she loved me with all she had for so long, until I suspect someone else popped their head in and contributed a different kind of attention. I sense she is now with someone, the same person that drew her away – & I feel so hurt how someone else can hurt such an amazing relationship for their own benefit. I believe one-day, she will want to return, but it will be too late… after our oppurtunity of amazing life and dreams are no longer possible due to new circumstances at that point in our lives.

I ask that anyone who reads this message, please believe me in my calls of desperation, that you take a moment to help me out by having a word of God. She knows I’d give the world to her, and I live with hope in my heart that she’ll return before her dreams buried blind and my washed away – will survive by an unexpected re-union. PLEASE I ASK.

In return, I will pray for you all – like I mean it, coz thats the only time God ever listens. I live with hope, and understanding that we can do only so much – but also know whats best for her… so I reach out to whoever may take the time to give something back.
Thank you with all my heart, I will keep returning the love of God to all.

]]> By: Carrie http://www.pastordanwalker.org/2006/06/how-to-restore-broken-relationships.htm/comment-page-1#comment-1935 Carrie Fri, 02 Dec 2011 16:49:23 +0000 http://192.168.1.105/wordpress/?p=98#comment-1935 Hello everyone, I too am in a similar situation where there seems to be no resolution. We have been married for two years and it's been a nightmare. I've been cheated on and emotionally abused and recently the relationship has broken down to the point where I might have to leave my home and my marriage. I care for this man very much, he has been good to me in many other ways but he is afflicted by demons (lying, infidelity) and I do not have the cure for what he ails from. In the past I have tried to control people and relationships which has left me frustrated, angry and depleted, now I'm trying to give it to God, in the hope that he will deliver the best possible outcome for both of us. In reading your posts I wonder how many of us stay, or long for relationships that are truly wrong for us, because we want to be loved and cherished so badly. I have struggled with toxic relationships and codependency all of my life and I'm now recognizing that I need God's help and self-awareness to move from these dangerous patterns. I like many of you are struggling to let go of someone who has meant so much to me, but I think any relationship of God's design should be harmonious, nurturing, supportive and the parties should bring out the best in one another. I am praying everyday for peace to deal with whatever unfolds. God Bless all of you... Hello everyone,

I too am in a similar situation where there seems to be no resolution. We have been married for two years and it’s been a nightmare. I’ve been cheated on and emotionally abused and recently the relationship has broken down to the point where I might have to leave my home and my marriage. I care for this man very much, he has been good to me in many other ways but he is afflicted by demons (lying, infidelity) and I do not have the cure for what he ails from. In the past I have tried to control people and relationships which has left me frustrated, angry and depleted, now I’m trying to give it to God, in the hope that he will deliver the best possible outcome for both of us. In reading your posts I wonder how many of us stay, or long for relationships that are truly wrong for us, because we want to be loved and cherished so badly. I have struggled with toxic relationships and codependency all of my life and I’m now recognizing that I need God’s help and self-awareness to move from these dangerous patterns. I like many of you are struggling to let go of someone who has meant so much to me, but I think any relationship of God’s design should be harmonious, nurturing, supportive and the parties should bring out the best in one another. I am praying everyday for peace to deal with whatever unfolds. God Bless all of you…

]]> By: Kelly http://www.pastordanwalker.org/2006/06/how-to-restore-broken-relationships.htm/comment-page-1#comment-1930 Kelly Fri, 02 Dec 2011 00:55:34 +0000 http://192.168.1.105/wordpress/?p=98#comment-1930 Please pray for my boyfriend. He is going through a difficult and confusing time that is related to latent grief for his late wife. She died last year and then about a month later we met and moved into together after making a commitment to each other as life partners. We haven't broken up, but he has asked me to move out of our home... and until I can do so he is staying with a friend/at a hotel. We are going to counseling on Monday... We are going together to a relationship specialist as well as going to counseling separately afterwards. We plan on doing this as long as it takes, but I am so scared that moving out really means the beginning of the end. I love him so much and he loves me too and we want to be together and grow old together, but he is feeling so much hurt right now that my heart is breaking more for him than for myself. I don't know what else to do but to have faith and stay positive and pray pray pray that God will give him clarity and strength to return to me and embrace our love and our relationship sooner rather than later. I am in so much pain and he is just sick with postponed grief over his late wife and over the hurt he has caused me. He keeps asking me how I can forgive him and how I can possibly let him continue to hurt me - my only answer is 'because I love you and I made a commitment to you'... He doesnt understand such love... For some reason he doesn't think he deserves love and forgiveness. God, please help him forgive himself so that he can accept my forgiveness and my love with a peaceful heart. After all I have been through in my life (abuse, abandonment, rape, bankruptcy) I have faith that you sent this wonderful man to love and keep me. I am sorry that I did anything to push him away or make him feel unloved. Forgive me Father, please help us to restore our relationship. He and I wish only to make things right so we can continue a healthy and loving relationship. Please help us, God our Father. Please pray for us. Please pray for my boyfriend. He is going through a difficult and confusing time that is related to latent grief for his late wife. She died last year and then about a month later we met and moved into together after making a commitment to each other as life partners. We haven’t broken up, but he has asked me to move out of our home… and until I can do so he is staying with a friend/at a hotel. We are going to counseling on Monday… We are going together to a relationship specialist as well as going to counseling separately afterwards. We plan on doing this as long as it takes, but I am so scared that moving out really means the beginning of the end. I love him so much and he loves me too and we want to be together and grow old together, but he is feeling so much hurt right now that my heart is breaking more for him than for myself. I don’t know what else to do but to have faith and stay positive and pray pray pray that God will give him clarity and strength to return to me and embrace our love and our relationship sooner rather than later. I am in so much pain and he is just sick with postponed grief over his late wife and over the hurt he has caused me. He keeps asking me how I can forgive him and how I can possibly let him continue to hurt me – my only answer is ‘because I love you and I made a commitment to you’… He doesnt understand such love… For some reason he doesn’t think he deserves love and forgiveness. God, please help him forgive himself so that he can accept my forgiveness and my love with a peaceful heart. After all I have been through in my life (abuse, abandonment, rape, bankruptcy) I have faith that you sent this wonderful man to love and keep me. I am sorry that I did anything to push him away or make him feel unloved. Forgive me Father, please help us to restore our relationship. He and I wish only to make things right so we can continue a healthy and loving relationship. Please help us, God our Father. Please pray for us.

]]> By: Nicole http://www.pastordanwalker.org/2006/06/how-to-restore-broken-relationships.htm/comment-page-1#comment-1912 Nicole Mon, 28 Nov 2011 02:58:44 +0000 http://192.168.1.105/wordpress/?p=98#comment-1912 All of your posts are very interesting. I can relate and have great emapthy for you all. I too have been suffering from a broken relationship and a broken heart. Even though he and I haven't had much communication at all and I haven't seen him in nearly a month I am believing and standing in faith that God is going to restore, refresh, renew and rebulif our relationship. I believe our relationship will be stronger and deeper than ever before. My heart is broken. I miss him so much. I long to be with him. I have tried being the peacemaker but to no avail. We both love one another deeply but he is in financial crisis and it's as though all of his problems have combined and mounted up now and he can't handle dealing with it all. I have been praying diligently but haven't seen anything much change at this point. I am believing through faith though that we will be reconciled back to one another by Christmas this year. Please pray for me! Thank you so much and God bless... All of your posts are very interesting. I can relate and have great emapthy for you all. I too have been suffering from a broken relationship and a broken heart. Even though he and I haven’t had much communication at all and I haven’t seen him in nearly a month I am believing and standing in faith that God is going to restore, refresh, renew and rebulif our relationship. I believe our relationship will be stronger and deeper than ever before. My heart is broken. I miss him so much. I long to be with him. I have tried being the peacemaker but to no avail. We both love one another deeply but he is in financial crisis and it’s as though all of his problems have combined and mounted up now and he can’t handle dealing with it all. I have been praying diligently but haven’t seen anything much change at this point. I am believing through faith though that we will be reconciled back to one another by Christmas this year. Please pray for me! Thank you so much and God bless…

]]> By: daisy http://www.pastordanwalker.org/2006/06/how-to-restore-broken-relationships.htm/comment-page-1#comment-1889 daisy Wed, 16 Nov 2011 19:01:51 +0000 http://192.168.1.105/wordpress/?p=98#comment-1889 Please pray for my realtionship and kids.. I've been iin a realtionship 6yrs n have2 kids 2gther were not marry.. We've done hurtful thiings 2 each other we both know about god... We sperated 3 months ago n ii moved out of state with my kiids n iis soo hard ...i c myself with n ii wnt 2 get marry wiith hiim..ii love hiim a lot. N da kids miss him a lot ..I'm just prayin n haviin faith iin god .. 2 make us a family agaiin... pls pray 4us ii just soooo lonley n my only hope iis God! Please pray for my realtionship and kids..
I’ve been iin a realtionship 6yrs n have2 kids 2gther were not marry..
We’ve done hurtful thiings 2 each other we both know about god…
We sperated 3 months ago n ii moved out of state with my kiids n iis soo hard …i c myself with n ii wnt 2 get marry wiith hiim..ii love hiim a lot. N da kids miss him a lot ..I’m just prayin n haviin faith iin god .. 2 make us a family agaiin… pls pray 4us ii just soooo lonley n my only hope iis God!

]]> By: Kim http://www.pastordanwalker.org/2006/06/how-to-restore-broken-relationships.htm/comment-page-1#comment-1882 Kim Wed, 09 Nov 2011 01:56:31 +0000 http://192.168.1.105/wordpress/?p=98#comment-1882 That was an incrediable story thank you so much for sharing. I have had a similiar thing happen to me. I will pray god's will for both of us. That was an incrediable story thank you so much for sharing. I have had a similiar thing happen to me. I will pray god’s will for both of us.

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